Define Commitment

How do you define da word 'Commitment'?I'm pretty sure that everyone has different intepretation about this and we have different priorities about it too.So how much commitment can you put in a relationship?How far can you go?And are you willing to do so?

I grew up in a conservative world where love was pure and naïve.I love you & you love is the important key in da relationship.Once I named you as my partner,I would expect commitment will take place naturally.Trust and loyalty are da main commitment that one should give in as a security for each other else what’s da point of a relationship?

But now I realise how da society is changing about this,there's still minority of people who still thinks conservatively and how about da majority?Well,some of them takes relationships as a need,whenever I need someone,I'll just find her cos I know that she gonna be there for me(also known as spare tyre?).Some would officially say "Yeap,she's my girlfriend" while hunting for other new & fresh people around with da reason young & playful.Some selfishly wants da best from everyone, so they just take their love grantedly and da last category of people(which I can think of)are da ones who are afraid of commitment,reason?Afraid of responsibility and doesn’t wanna be tied down.

What I see from myself and others around me,do feel pityful that why people are changing to this unhealthy lifestyle or relationship?In a way it sounds correct for them to do so cos they're seeking for da "right" person for them by choosing and trying but in a way,it sounds horrible where I dun feel da respect to them at all.

Da word commitment seems to be scaring people for not falling into a relationship.It sounds like a death note where once you're in,you can never come out.

Even if there's a commitment in a relationship, it doesn’t guarantees anything.Commitment doesn’t assure you that your partner is not gonna leave you one day or finding someone else or flirting behind you.Commitment is like a 'trust' or a 'security' where your partner want you to have it so that you'll feel secured and confidence with da relationship.

At da end of da day, everyone here are afraid of loneliness,we doesn’t wanna grow old and die with no one by our side,we doesn’t wanna be alone when we're down and stressed.Though it's true that we doesn't depend on others to exist and yet we need others for us to carry on.Anyway,whatever we are doing now,believe me,when times flies and we grow old,we would realise what we have missed.

Commitment isnt about responsibility,burden or frustrations,is about how much you want da someone to have faith in da relationship with you.

As for me,wont be expecting a lot from love or relationship.I fall deeply once and still havent manage to pull my leg up.A fren asked me,what's so attractive about her?I answered "Da power of love,I guess?".Life is full of ups and downs,da least you expect da less disappointment you get and in da end,watever miracle or surprises that happens,it's bonus or luck.

I wouldn’t change who I am from what has happened.I never gave up on her and I don’t know why.Love?